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The Paradox of our Time

Thursday, December 10th, 2009

I found this article and thought  it would be a wonderful tribute to all of the family caregivers in our community. It touched me and I wanted to share it with you. Some people say it was written by George Carlin but he always denied it. Even though I don’t know who wrote it, please take a few minutes to read this. It helps to remind us of what is really most important in this world.  Happy Holidays!

The Paradox of our Time

The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings, but shorter tempers; wider freeways, but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less; we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families; more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees, but less sense; more knowledge but less judgement; more experts, yet more problems; more medicine, but less wellness.

We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom. We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.

We’ve learned how to make a living, but not a life. We’ve added years to life, not life to years. We’ve been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space, but not inner space. We’ve done larger things, but not better things. We’ve cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We’ve conquered the atom, but not our prejudice.

Remember, spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever.

Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side.

Remember, give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn’t cost a cent.

Remember, say “I love you” to your partner and your loved ones; but most of all, mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you.

Remember, hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again. Give time to love, give time to speak, and give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.

Remember, Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.

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The Top 6 Things to Look For On Your Next Visit Home For the Holidays

Monday, December 7th, 2009

Most people as they age want to stay independent and remain in their own homes. This is no longer just a dream. There are many services now available to help elders age in place. As a result, most people can remain independent in their own homes far longer than in the past. The key is to know when an elderly loved one is beginning to need some help.

 

Understanding that aging is a continuum requiring some adjustments is the first step in assuring that elders can maintain the independence they so desperately want. In most instances, a decline in their ability to perform small, daily activities is usually the first sign that a person’s needs are changing. Here are some warning signs that an aging loved one may need some help.

 

  • Grocery Shopping and Meal Preparation
    • Is the refrigerator empty? Is food old or moldy? Is basic nutrition being ignored? Are meals being skipped?

 

  • Housework
    • Is there a change in the way the house is being kept? Is the once clean and tidy home showing signs of neglect?

 

  • Transportation
    • Is the individual having “close calls” or accidents? Are people honking? Do they act confused in traffic? Do they drive too slowly?

 

  • Personal Hygiene
    • Is the person wearing the same clothes day after day? Are clothes clean? Does he/she still care about grooming – showering, washing hair, etc.

 

  • Money Management
    • Are bills piling up? Are they being paid on a timely basis?

 

  • Medication
    • Does your loved one remember to take daily medication on schedule and as directed?

 

These very common signs of aging are, in and of themselves, not cause for alarm. Yet once the number of signs starts to increase, family members should develop a strategy for making sure their loved ones needs are being met. Assistance with any of these tasks is widely available – whether it be from family, friends, neighbors or professional caregivers. It is comforting to know that the majority of people, with just a little bit of help, can retain their independence and continue to age in place.

 

 

Being mindful of the first initial signs of aging allows families and loved ones to help the elderly maintain their independence and quality of life at home – right where they want to be.

 

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A New Study Documents the Negative Emotional, Physical and Financial Impacts of Caregiving on Boomer Women

Thursday, December 3rd, 2009

Women have changed. Boomers today are very different than female caregivers of previous generations. They are still the primary caregivers of their aging relatives but they also work, have children of their own and more of them are divorced and have fewer support structures. This results in very stressful situations for them and their families.

The International Longevity Center recently released “Caregiving in America: The Health Consequences on Boomer Women”.  The brief provides statistics that show the negative health, financial and social consequences that women caregivers of the baby boom generation face now and will continue to face as the demand for family caregiving increases with the aging of the population. 

The report states:

 

Reduced savings, reduced employment, earlier retirement, high out-of-pocket expenses of providing care, and increased likelihood of poverty are par for the course among many boomer women providing care to family members.

 

The stress and pressures resulting from caregiving may result in increased depression and significant health issues as well.

 

This is a very depressing picture and with the aging of America it is only going to continue to get worse. People who are caregiving need help. They are taking on more responsibilities as more and more aging people are staying in their homes and counting on their families for support. If the government were to pay for the services provided by our nation’s female caregivers, it would cost taxpayers between $207 billion and $263 billion annually.

 

What can be done? This report recommends 3 key approaches:

1.    Families must do more to plan for their aging and the aging of their loved ones. Families must talk more with their aging relatives about their wishes and plans for the future. Researching options and having a plan agreed to by everyone can greatly reduce the stress from a health care crisis. As women are helping their loved ones through their aging issues, it is critical they also start to put a plan together for their own successful aging.

2.    Employers should establish a clear dialogue with employees about their eldercare needs, and be committed to providing supportive resources that are needed. On-site eldercare programs, referral services, and subsidies for adult day care are among the possibilities. Alternative work arrangements are often very helpful to caregivers.

3.    Policymakers at all levels of government need to do more to fund initiatives to help caregivers.

 

Boomer women have always had to lead the way to change our culture through the ‘60s and on. They will do so again as more and more begin to accept the caregiver role and see all the needs that exist that aren’t being met. Hopefully, we will see a change for the better for family caregivers. To read the complete study, please click here.    

 

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